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Biggerwelcome!HelloSanFrancisco!TEDx-ohmyGod,blindinglight!Hi,everybody!Howare

you?Fine?!Ohmygoshokay,somynameisMelRobbinsandforthelastseventeenyearsIhave

reason!Myhusband'shere.

SoI'vedoneitinthecourtroom,intheboardroom,inthebedroom,inpeople'slivingroom

whateverroomyouwanttobein,ifI'mthereIwillhelpyougetwhateveryouwantbyanymeans

necessary.

ForthelastthreeyearsI'ysaweekIgolivein

nowthatathird

ofAmericansfeeldissatisfiedwiththeirlivesrightnow?Thatisahundredmillionpeople!That's

insane!AndI'vecomefacetofacewithitinthisnewshowthatI'mdoing,whichisalsoin

sayingit'nwithfamiliesacrossAmerica.

Youguessit!tothesamehouseIverballyassassinat

eeverybody,weopenupPandora'sboxandIgetpeopletostoparguingaboutthedonutsand

who'shostingthanksgivingdinner,t'swhatIwanttotalkto

youabout.I'mhereforyou.I'mgoingtotellyoueverythingIknowinlessthaneighteenminutes

tyoutotakeamillisecondrightnowandIwantyouto

thinkaboutwhatyouwant!You!imonandthe“We”

aboutme,rightnow!youwant?Andhere''t

yourmanboobs,soyoucouldhookupwithsomebody,nowthat'ttoknow

whatdoyouwant?Doyouwanttoloseweight?Doyouwanttotripleyourincome?Doyouwant

tostartanonprofit?Doyouwanttofindlove?Whatisit?Getit,wwhatitis,

don’tanalyzeittohealth,'spartoftheproblemyouwon'tpick.

So,nkly,gettingwhatyouwantis

iceIdidn''ifyouthinkaboutitwelivein

thingthatyouhaveuphere,whateveritmaybe,you

wanttousehealthyeatingtocureyourdiabetes,youwanttofigureouthowtotakecareofthe

eldersandstartanewhospicecenteryouwanttomovetoAfricaandbuildaschool…Guesswhat?

Youcanwalkintoabookstorerightnowandbuyatleasttenbookswrittenbycredentialed

ldGoogleitandyoucanprobablyfindatleast,Idon’t

knowathousandblogsdocumentingthestepbystepbysteptransformationthatsomebodyelse

findanybodyonlineandcyber-stalkthem!Youcanjustwalkintheir

footstepsandletthatyouknowjustusethescienceofdraftingfollowwhateversomeoneelseis

alreadydoingit!Sowhydon'tyouhavewhatyouwant?Whenyouhavealltheinformationthat

youneed.

Youhavethecontactsthatyouneedthereareprobablyfreetoolsonlinethatallowyoutostarta

businessorjoinagroupordowhatevertheheckyouwant!?Itallcomesdowntoonewords.

Shutthefrontdoor,youknowwhatI'mtalkingabout?erywhere!Youhearall

tlydon',youdon'tsound

''ssortofacheapshot

totake,andofcourseyouknowI'doingI'mfinereallyyou

aredraggingaroundthoseextrafortypoundsyou'refine?Feelinglikeroommateswithyour

spouseandyourfine?Youhaven'thadsexinfourmonthsyou'refine?Really?Idon’tthinkso,

butseehere'sthedealwassayingthatyou''sactuallygeniusbecauseifyou'refine,you

don’nyouthinkaboutthiswordfine,itjustmakesmesoangry.I

meanhereweareataconferenceaboutbeingaliveandyou'regoingtodescribetheexperience

limsyandfeebleword!Ifyouarecrappy,sayyouarecrappy!Ifyou

areamazingsayyouareamazing!Tellthetruth!Andthisnotonlygoesforthesocialconstruct:“I

don'twanttoburdenyouwiththefactthatIhatemylife”,or:“Hey,Iamamazing,butIwould

makeyoufeelterrible.”ingthatyou

want,Iguaranteeyou,youconvincedyourselfthatyou''swhyyou'renot

'stheareasinyourlifewereyougivenupwe'vesaidohI'mfinemymom's

nevergonnachangesoIjustcan'thavethatconversation.“'vegottowaituntilthe

kidsgraduatebeforewegetdivorce,sowelljustleaveinseparatebedrooms.I'mfineIlostmy

jobIcanbarelypaymybillsbutitishardtogetajob.”Oneofthereasonswhythiswordalsojust

annoysmesomuch,scientistshavecalculatedtheoddsofyoubeingborn.

That'sright,they'vecrunchedthenumbersIseeyouuptheretheyhavecrunchedthenumberson

you,unchedthenumbers

onyoubeingbornandtheytookintoaccountallofthewarsandthenaturaldisastersandthe

dinosaursandeverythingelse,Anddoyourealizetheoddstheoddsofyourighthereputyour

computerwaystandupforme,sotheoddsofDougyouareturnaroundsayhitoeverybodythe

oddsofDougDougbeingboredatthemomentintimehewasborntotheparentsyouwereborn

to,withtheDNAstructurethatyouhaveoneinfourhundredtrillion!Isn’tthatamazing?Yesyou

aren’tfine,youarefantastic!Youhavelife-changingideasforareasonandit'snotthetorture

outhankyouJohn.

Christinewasrightwhenshesaidallofyoucouldbeonstage,becauseallofyouareallinthis

longyouhaveideasthatcouldchangeyourlife,they

couldchangetheworldthatcouldchangethewaythatyoufeel,Iwanttodowiththem,nothing!

HopefullyIwon'tmoonyou!Youdidn'tpayforthat,andIwantyoutojustthinkforaminute

ousetheanalogy“theinnersnoozebutton”youhavetheseamazing

'vebeenwatchingpeoplealldayandIguaranteeyoulikeyou

knowpingpongballsboomamamamamamandeverytimeyouhaveanidea,whatyoudo?Hit

thesnooze!What'sthefirstdecisionyoumadethismorning?Ibetitwastogobacktobed.“Yeah,

firstdecisiontoday,I'moneinfourhundredtrillion,I'mgoingtogobacktosleep.”AndIgotit!

Yourbediscomfortable!It'scozy,it'swarm!Ifyou'relucky,you'vegotyousomebodythatyou

lovenexttoyou,orinmycaseI'

thereasonwhyI'mbringingupthisfirstdecisionthatyoumadetoday,andtheinnersnooze

alarmisbecauseinanyareaofyourlifethatyouwanttochange,any-there'sonefactthatyou

needtoknow.

Thisone:you''scoming,motivationisn'thappening,you

calledtheforcerequired

togetyoutochangefromwhatyou'histest

nkyou'resofancy,Iknowyou'owmorningset

youralarmforthirtyminutesearlierandthenwhenitgoesoff,takethosesheetsandstandup

ze,nodelay,no“I'lljustwaithereforfivesecondssmellsnotstanding”

doit!AndthereasonwhyIwantyoutodoitisbecauseyouwillcomefacetofacewiththe

physical,andImeanphysicalforcethat'hinkthat

somebodywhoneedstoloseweighteverfeelslikegoingonadiet?Ofcoursenotyou!Youthink

theywerefeellikeeatingboiledchickenandpeasinsteadofcroissant?Idon’tthinkso!The

activationenergyrequiredtogetyourassawayfromyourcomputerandoutyourfrontdoorto

goonthewalk,yousaidthatyouweregoingtogoon,istheexactsameamountofforcethatit

'sinterestingabout

beinganadultisthatwhenyoubecomeeighteennobodytellsyouit'snowgoingtobeyourjob

“parentyourself”,Imeanit'syourjobtomakeyourselfdothecrap

youdon'twanttodo,'resodamn

'renevergoingto.

'smyjob!GetoffthedamnDS!Kendall,cleanup

thebarbies!Ifyou'regoingtohaveanudepartyinmybathroom,atleastcleanitup!God,chew

yourmouthclosed!Wearen’tabarn,forcryingoutloud!Alrightdinneriscoming,getoutofthe

nts,andyouwereakid,yourparentsmakeyoudothethingsyoudon'tfeellike

eyouwon't,ever!Notnow,notthen,notever!Andevenwhenyougetgoodat

something,you'llfigureoutsomethingelseyoudon'nyou'llplateauout,

getbored,”butwillyoulookforanewone?No!You''sveryvery

snoteasy.

Youhavetoforceyourself,reasonwhyIusetheword“force”whenRoz

wasuphereandtalkingabouttheemotiontracking,andshehadthepictureofthetwosides

escribedonesideofyourbrainis

'stheonlytwospeedyougotautopilot,

sswhichoneyourbrainlikesbetter:'vehadthe

experiencewhereyou'vedriventoworkrightyougetthereandyou'relike,“ohmyGod,Idon't

remembereverdrivinghere.”Youweren'tdrink!

problemwithyourmindisthatanytimeyoudoanything

that'sdifferentfromyournormalroutine,guesswhatyourbraindoes-emergencybreak!Andit

hasthatreactionforeverything.

Everythingyouwalkintothekitchenandyouseeeverybody'slefttheirbreakfastdishesforyou.

Andyouthinkforthehundredthtime,“I'I'mgonnaleaveithereand

I'mgoingtomakethemdoit.”Butthat'snotyournormalroutine,isit?Soyourmindgoes:

emergencybrake!Andyougorightintoautopilot.I'lljustloadit,andbepissed,andthennot

'swhatI'Isay“force”,anythingthat'sabreakfromyour

outhinkaboutyourlifeit'skindoffunnybecausewe

knowourkidsandthenwebecomeadultswespendsomuchtimetryingtopushourlifeinto

somesortofstableroutine,andthenwegrowboredofit!Youwakeupatthesametimeevery

day,youhavelargelythesamebreakfast,youdrivetoworkthesameway,youshowupatwork

youlookbusyavoidmakingcalls,updateFacebook,youattendtomeetinganddoodlethe

wholetimeandgobackandupdateFacebook,makeplansfortheeveningyoulookbusysome

more,thendrivehomeatthesameway,youeatlargelythesamedinneroravarietyofit,you

watchthesamekindofmedia,andthenyougotobed,anddothesamethingalloveragain!No

wanderyou'reboredoutofyourmind!It'stheroutinethat'histheoryabout

whypeoplegetstuckinlife,somostofyou'veprobablytakenyourBasicsPsych101class,and

you'vebumpedintoAbrahamMaslow's“HierarchyofNeeds”?Well,yourbodyiskindacool.

Becauseyouhavethesebasicneeds,rehungry,

Imeanifyouneedfoodwhatdoyoufeel?Ifyouneedwaterwhatdoyoufeel?Ifyouneedsex

whatdoyoufeel?

whenyoufeelstuckordissatisfiedinyourlife,It''snotasignal

'

hingaboutyourlifeaboutyourbodygrowsyourcellsregenerate

yourhairyournailseverythinggrowsforyourentirelife,andyoursoulneedsexplorationand

onlywayyou'g

'reinyourheadyou'rebehindenemy

linesthatisnotGodtalking,okit'snot!InfactifIputaspeakeronitandwebroadcastwhatyou

saytoyourself,ldnothangoutwithpeoplethattalkto

ofyourhead!Yourfeelingsarescrewingyou!Idon't

carehowyoufeel,Icareaboutwhatyouwant!Andifyoulistentohowyoufeelwhenitcomesto

whatyouwantyouwillnotgetit,needtogetoutside

yourcomfortzoneit'saboutgettingoutsideyourcomfortzone.

Thosefirstthreesecondswhenyoupushyourselfoutofbed,eyou'reup,it's

irstthreesecondswhenyou'resittinghereinastudioarestadiumlikethisand

somebodysaysgetupandcomedance,andyouthink,“Oh,Ishoulddothat,”andthenyou're

like,“Uhmm.”Thatexperiencethatyouhadwhenyouhadtheimpulsetodoitandthenyou

didn'tdotheactivationenergyrequiredtoforceyourself,youremergencybrakeup-I'msitting

righthere.I'mnotgoingupwiththosecrazypeople,Idon'tlikethedancer…Whathappenedfor

meisIcameup,andIbumpedintoRachel,andthenwestartedtalkingandnextthingyouknow

she''m!'swherethemagic!That'swhere

ythingIdothisisthelastpart,

ndcanprocessafacialexpression

erthingthatitdoesvery

quicklyisifyouhaveoneofthoselittleimpulsesthatarepullingyou,ifyoudon'tmarryitwithan

actionwithinfiveseconds,youpulledtheemergencybrakeandkilltheidea.

Killit!Ifyouhavetheimpulsetogetupandcomedancewhilethebandisplaying,ifyoudon't

standupinfiveseconds,you'aveanimpulseabout

youwereinspiredbysomebody'sspeechtodayandyoudon'tdosomethingwithinfiveseconds?

writeanotesendyourselfatextanythingphysicaltomarryitwiththeidea,youwillpullthe

emergencybreakandkilltheidea,oblemisyoudon'tacton

them.

Youkillthem,it''sanybody''!I'mcountingon

stufftodo!It'snotgoingtohappeninyourhead。

SoIwantyoutopracticethistoday,whenwegoofftoparty,thankGodit'scomingsoon,because

Ithinkweallcoulduseacocktail,

somebodyandyouthinktheyhadanimpulse,erthere!Youwere

!That'swhyyou'rehere!Experimentwith

itandIthinkyou'llbeshockedaboutwhathappens,andonemorethingyouknowIwantyouto

knowthateverythingthatIdowhetherit'stheandshoworthebookthat,Iwrote,orthecolumn,

it'sforyouandifthereisanythingthatIcando,ifIcandoanythingtomakeyoudothethingsyou

don'twanttodo,soyoucanhavewhatyouwant,needtowalkover,open

yourmouth,andyouneedtomaketherequest.

Yougotit?.